In discussing how to find or get a husband, I think the first question to ask is, “Do you really want a husband’? Many ladies have been single for so long that they really would not want a husband. For those who are still in their twenties or even younger, they may really be thinking of a husband as a boyfriend. While all husbands are boyfriends, not all boyfriends are husbands.
So who is a husband?– A husband is a man who has decided to spend the rest of his life on earth loving his wife. It is a man who has decided that he will do all that is within his powers to see that his wife is the best woman that she can ever be. His priority in the relationship is to ensure that his wife knows God and enjoys all the blessings inherent in her unity with God through Christ Jesus. He supports her, loves her, challenges her, nurtures her, corrects her, leads her by example and is ready to make any amends when he is wrong. He does his best to provide whatever is lacking in her that he can provide and prays for her constantly so that she is always in tune with God her owner and lover. A husband is not just someone that acts as a male figure in the home. He is not just the one that has a deep voice. A husband is not just one that attracts you sexually, or one that makes you laugh. He should be all of these in addition to the definition in the previous paragraph. What does this mean to a woman? Well it means that if you want a husband you will need to forget about the independence and begin to think co-dependence. A husband would want his wife to be ready to work together as a team to build a solid and life changing relationship with God. A husband is ready to join with his wife to build God’s kingdom and as such the wife must be ready for such a level of commitment. Dear sisters, if you are looking for a movie partner, or a sex partner, or the father of your kids then, the things we will be discussing here may not apply to you. The strategies for getting a joker (one who is there to make you laugh), or a body guard (your protector) or a sex partner (someone to meet your sexual needs) are different from the strategies of getting a husband. If you try to get a husband with the wrong strategy, you will most likely attract the wrong people and keep wondering why husbands are not manifesting.Food for thought – Do you really want a husband? Then develop strategies necessary to get a husband. Stop looking for a boyfriend, a funny guy, a rich guy and look for someone who is committed to God and is interested in investing his life work in building the Kingdom of God with you. What do you want in a husband? Do the things you want in a husband tally with what a husband is? Why do you want a husband? What are the strategies necessary in getting a husband as opposed to getting a boyfriend, or any other modification of a husband? I will share some more thoughts on this next time.Please feel free to ask your questions or share your thought.