Jan 24 2008
You Marriage can be sweet again!!!
Let me begin by saying to you, that ALL Marriages can be sweet, peaceful and enjoyable. There is no marriage that is beyond repair. I say this not because I am ignorant of the fact that there are some partners that deserve to be locked up in jail but because I believe in miracles. To the people who are involved in such relationships and other relationships that have defied all other methods of revival, I want to say – FEAR NOT – ONLY BELIEVE. This is the message that Jesus gave to Jarius a Synagougue leader who had just lost his little girl. And as you can guess, by believing in the Power of God, the man received his daughter back to life. So also I wish to say that for some of my readers today, what you need is a miracle. Now don’t get me wrong. There are many couples that are better off divorced unless there is a miracle, so if you are divorced or separated, you don’t need to be worried. Stay Calm and read along for the future. However I must say that I have seen otherwise dead marriages revived by the power of God.
On the other hand there are so many other people for whom, a little exercise and patience would make a huge difference. It is to this group of people that my article is directed. In other words if you are still willing to try something new, if you are still willing to make some effort to save your marriage, this article will be of immense importance to you.
Before I begin to share a few things with you, I must say once more that the first key to turning a failing or dying marriage around is to believe that the marriage can be revived. You should have noticed by now that I am comparing a marriage to a living entity. If your marriage is to be sweet, peaceful and enjoyable, you must understand that Marriage is like an organism, a living entity, a baby if you wish. It needs to be fed, nurtured, trained, exercised and taken for medical checkups on a regular basis.
Many people especially my African brothers, are so ignorant of this fact and their ignorance has caused many heartaches for them and their wives. In this article I intend to make only one point, and I want to make that point very clearly. My point is this – BELIEVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
What do I mean by this? Well experience has shown me as I have discussed with many married couples over the years that couples that believe in their marriages tend to get much more out of counseling sessions than couples that think that there is no more hope. You may rightly ask that why then do they come for counseling. – The answer to that is that they come simply to satisfy their conscience that they did all they could to save the marriage. However they had already made up their mind to bury the marriage before coming to “the doctor”. In fact, all the time they were at the counseling session they were making “funeral arrangements” for the dead marriage.
So dear readers, in this introductory article, my advice to you is this. BELIEVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE. DO NOT GIVE UP UNTILL YOU HAVE TRULY TRIED EVERYTHING. In other words, please do the following exercise. Stand before a mirror, look at your self and say; I believe that my marriage can be sweet again. I believe that I can be happy in this marriage. Even if my spouse does not agree with me. I believe in Miracles. Now the first time you do that, you may feel very uncomfortable and even foolish, doubts may come to your mind; but I beg of you, please do it again and again until you are fully convinced that there is hope for your dying marriage. You don’t need to know how your marriage will be revived; all you need at this point is to believe that there is a possibility that you will have a very loving and pleasurable marriage again. It is this knowledge that will empower you to patiently follow the other steps that will be outlined in subsequent months. Remember from now until you read from me again, keep saying to yourself, my marriage is not dead, it is only asleep. It can be revived. My marriage can be sweet again, I will enjoy this marriage again. I will not give up. I will not surrender. Then finish it up with a prayer. Please God fill me with wisdom on how to revive my marriage. Till next time keep up the faith.